Enoch's Advice
Enoch: “We’re
going to talk about talents and skills.
“How often do you consider what talents
and what skills you have? All so often you look at your failings
and where you think you could improve. So often you look
on yourself in a negative sense. I am too fat or I am too thin,
or I wish this or I wish that about your form. There is always a
tendency also to do this with the abilities that you have. How
many of you say “Ooh I couldn’t do that” or “I’m not capable of
that” or “So and so is better than I am at doing that sort of
thing”, and so you downgrade yourself.
“We are asking that in your life, that
you upgrade yourself, and look within you to see what skills do
you have, what talents have you now? What talents and gifts did
you have when you were growing up? How many of them have fallen
by the wayside? All these questions you can ask yourselves. We
would like you to consider your talents and your gifts.
They do not have to be large or of worldwide importance. Your
talent might simply be being considerate to others or showing
kindness, feeling love. They don’t have to be that you are very
artistic, or an amazing speaker, or anything of that nature.
Your talents also are in the small things. These small things
are the things that matter to those around you, providing you
use those talents. If you do not use them, then you are of no
help to another, for it remains within. Have you given this any
thought?
“The other thing we would like you to do
in your life is to look for and seek out the talents in others,
and when you find them, as you surely will, make sure that the
other person is commended on that talent, even for something as
small as ‘My goodness you have a wonderful smile.’ A smile is a
talent. Not all have that talent, or not all think to use it. So
when you seek and discover a talent, no matter how small or
large, make positive comment on it to that person. This will
give them confidence in themselves where perhaps it was needed.
It will lighten their day.
“Many of you go around saying ‘What can I
do to change the world?’, ‘How can I make a difference?’ We say
it is in the small things, as well as the large things, that
make a difference. You can transform a person’s day by the right
comments. We are not asking you to tell lies, or to overly
flatter when it is not true, but simply seek and find the good
in others, the little sparkle of wonder that is in another being
and give voice to it, not simply think it. Many of you think ‘oh
isn’t that person clever’ or ‘don’t they look good’ ‘haven’t
they dressed well etc., But if you only think and it is not
verbally passed on it does not make a difference to that other
person.
“Now many of you are thinking ‘There are
many on this planet who already think too much of themselves’,
and maybe you will add to their ego by commenting on the good
that they have. You know those who go around saying how
wonderful they are, are usually those who do not think a lot of
themselves. They voice those things in compensation for their
lack of confidence and trust in themselves. Can you see the
truth in these words? You see we too are only speaking of things
that you already know, and because you already know them this
itself is also a talent, of having learnt so much and
recognising the truth in things. That is a talent as well.”
Paul: “It’s sometimes difficult building
up courage to speak out to the other person, for fear of their
judgment on what you have to say regarding them, how could you
overcome this?”
Enoch: “Worried about their judgment?
Surely if you are speaking honestly and with sincerity and you
are bringing out what is of advantage to them they will not
object and will be pleased. What you are worried about is
whether another might feel you are flattering them with an
ulterior motive. Surely you can find the words to show that
there is no ulterior motive. Simply be sincere and don’t overdo
it.”
Paul: Thank You
Cheryl: “I find people who are very
opinionated are also very insecure.”
Enoch: “Yes, exactly. You see already
that those who appear to have a high ego and a high opinion of
themselves are in fact insecure and they need your words even
more, even more than those who appear to be meek and humble.
Sitter: How do you help people with
depression? Some people with depression, even if you actually
say you’re fantastic they always say the opposite. I’m not
worthy and so on. It’s very deep seated within them.
“It is very difficult for you to raise
them above that depression, this is true, and those who are so
submersed in depression need a different variety of treatments,
of approach, and it is a requirement that you have those
experiences in these matters you see for there is not one way
which is the correct way there are many ways dependent upon the
situation as to why a person is depressed or not, you see there
are also chemical depressions, where the treatment is quite
different to simply mere words. Depression can come from a
variety of sources and not all of them are as a result of low
esteem. There are many many ways, so we are not speaking of
those that are deep in depression, when we ask you to promote
another’s ego shall we say, you need an expert treatment for
this.
Female Voice: …In our everyday lives to try and lighten things
around us.
Enoch: “Exactly! And imagine if everybody
were to do the same, imagine how the world would be lighter! But
we do ask, make sure you do not flatter when it is not
justified, we do not wish you to give, shall we say, an opening
for telling untruths, do you see?
Female Voice: You ask us to come from the
heart not the head
Enoch “We ask that you seek those gifts,
those assets, those talents, within another, and surely you will
find something to admire, something even if it is beautiful
hair, or a straight nose or whatever you feel is a gift, or if
it is a talent that goes with it all the better, we are not
asking you to tell untruths, only that you are sincere, and that
you genuinely admire those talents in another.
Paul: If you have somebody who is very
headstrong or very strong willed and you can see the path that
they’re going on and you want to warn them, or speak to them
regarding that particular path, is there a particular approach
that you can use to do so?
Enoch: “Again, this depends on each
individual situation. In general, advising caution often
has no effect whatsoever, but you see each individual has the
right to choose its path whether it is considered to be a wrong
one by another it is all a learning process. Maybe it was part
of their Plan, on another level, that they do rush headlong into
something that is not apparently to their advantage in order
that they might learn from that experience. I’m not asking you
to choose another’s pathway. Just that where you see good you
give voice to what you see.
“You can obviously caution in a sense,
but it would be wise to look further. You see where one is bent
on going into situations they will go, whatever you say. There
are others of course who if you advise a course of action they
will always choose the opposite so you might make the situation
even worse. You surely have come across this in others. Allow
others around you to make their own mistakes.
“Of course you are going to say yes, but
if we have children we need to caution them, but this is another
matter, is it not? It is part of the training that you have to
be parents, and that is how they will learn. You would not tell
a toddler or a baby learning to walk not to do so because it
might fall over. You allow it to fall over, so that it can learn
how not to next time, is that not so? And those children who are
learning to ride bicycles for the first time, you know they will
have a tumble, but it is only by trying that they will learn how
not to have a tumble.
Paul: It has to be their experience
Enoch: “Exactly. And this is the truth
also for adults”
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